Somatic Counseling for Individuals & Couples

My work is grounded in the understanding that our bodies hold our relational histories, often shaping how we feel, connect, and respond long before we are consciously aware. Rather than focusing on diagnosis or pathology, I work from a somatic and relational lens—supporting individuals and couples in slowing down, reconnecting with themselves and each other, and finding new possibilities where things once felt stuck.

What is Somatic Counseling?

Somatic counseling is a body-centered approach that recognizes how lived experiences and relationships are stored and expressed through the nervous system. By gently increasing awareness of sensations, patterns, and emotional responses, somatic counseling helps individuals and couples restore a sense of safety, deepen connection, and create meaningful change, especially when traditional approaches haven’t fully addressed what feels stuck.

Work with Individuals

Many people come to individual work feeling overwhelmed, shut down, or disconnected from themselves and others. They may find themselves stuck in thought loops, unsure of what they feel or need, and questioning whether they are “too much” or “not enough.” A common theme I hear is, “I don’t know.”
 
In individual sessions, I help people learn how to be with themselves in moments that once felt too much to feel alone.
 
As we slow things down and gently include the body, self-empathy often returns. Over time, people begin to feel more like themselves—sometimes for the first time. They develop clearer preferences, stronger boundaries, and a growing sense of self-trust. This often shows up as the ability to stand up for themselves, step away from situations that no longer fit, and move toward what they truly want and deserve.

Work with Couples

Many couples arrive feeling caught in repeating patterns—one partner pulling away while the other escalates, conflicts moving too fast to feel safe or productive, and both people feeling misunderstood or alone. Often, these patterns are not just about the present moment, but about how each person’s body remembers past relational experiences.
 
In our work together, we slow these moments down and work with what is happening in real time. When conflict is more contained, couples are better able to stay present with one another rather than being overtaken by automatic reactions. As this happens, partners often report feeling less stuck, noticing that arguments don’t escalate as quickly, and experiencing a renewed sense of connection.
 
As old relational imprints soften, couples are able to see each other more clearly—relating to one another as who they are now, rather than through the lens of past relationships. This creates space to take in care in smaller, more meaningful ways, allowing connection to feel safer, more mutual, and more sustainable over time.

While talking can be helpful for understanding experiences, my work also listens to what the body communicates in the present moment. By attending to sensations, emotions, impulses, and patterns as they arise—and by offering support and resources that may have been missing in the past—clients often experience shifts not just in insight, but in how they actually feel and relate in their lives.

Client Testimonials

Read what some of my clients and students have to say about my work!

"Nelofer has done wonders for me with her consistently insightful, unconditionally caring presence. She balances this care with deep respect and confidence in my own inner wisdom and wholeness. I’ve gotten a certain level of help from my 30 years in counseling with some wonderful therapists. However, the focus tended to be on the “problem.”
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Nelofer’s focus is on what is happening right now. We’ve done a lot of work with how my nervous system presents and affects my physical and emotional being in the present. Nothing is labeled a problem or abnormal. It is just a direct experience described as pleasant, unpleasant or neutral.

I was introduced to some simple, effective tools for regulating my nervous system, adding to a steadily increasing sense of empowerment and acceptance of myself. Feeling safe and valued allows me to be, to speak, and to express from a depth not accessible to me before I worked with Nelofer. She has helped me recover a healthiness of mind, heart, and spirit that I didn’t know was possible."

“I started seeing Nelofer about almost two years ago once a week for Somatic Experiencing therapy. We have done extensive work on my nervous system and it has made a lot of my POTS symptoms much better. She has given me the tools to help rewire my system so that I am able to manage my lightheadedness, vision changes, and heart rate changes. During our sessions we have also done work on childhood trauma and attachment work. I am so grateful for her and the work that we have accomplished. I truly feel like I have grown so much for the better because of her and her work. I highly recommend her for anyone that may be suffering from childhood trauma or any form of dysautonomia.”

Take the first step toward healing today

Reach out today for compassionate, personalized therapy that can help you regain control, find balance, and start feeling more like yourself again. Healing begins with a single step—let’s take it together.

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